A little bit about what makes me who I am
A little bit about me and what makes me who I am….
I was born in Christchurch and raised mainly by my MAMA. We moved around a lot (maybe that’s why I always get itchy feet to move). There have been a few main events that have made me who I am but where to start.
I left home at 15, after having a relationship breakdown with my Mum (we are best friends now). I worked 23 hours out of school to pay my way through school cert/6th form cert and my boarding costs. In the weekends I would have to get up at 4.30 to get ready for work and jump on the wai-wai express from Wainoni to Edgeware (6 km) to start work at good ol’ KBs Bakery at 6. Buses didn’t run at that time and I couldn’t afford taxis so I did what I had to and walked my ass to work. You gotta do what you gotta do. That’s where I get my drive and determination from. At 17 I rented my first place by myself right in the centre of town and then a year later I flatted with my older brother. I was fiercely independant! *Cue Destiny's Child Indendant woman, all the women who are independant, throw your hands up at me
Right where was I... Going to Aranui high school had a huge impact on me. It’s a name I am so proud of and I went to school with some of the most kind hearted people I have ever met. Society looked at Aranui as an area of people who struggled or who were ‘poor’. Looking back on it, Aranui taught me that I am not a product of my circumstances, I was capable of anything I set my mind to. I was fortunate enough to have some amazing teachers who backed me and lead me in the right direction. Having people who believe in you makes so much difference.
I left high school at the end of 6th form as I was lucky enough to get a scholarship with Westpac which gave me full time employment and paid costs for tertiary study. One of my teachers found this scholarship for me, she knew I didn’t live at home and wanted good things for me.
I did a total of 5 years at Westpac and decided to join the Army haha pretty random and completely different to banking! As soon as I joined the Army the values were something I aligned myself Comradeship, Commitment, Courage and Integrity. These values I still carry through with me in everything I do to this day especially Badass!
The Army gave me a lot and I did 8 years in the Military before leaving when I had Grace in 2014. I did a tour to Afghanistan in 2012/2013. Indirect events from the tour messed me up, I had to do counselling when I got back. I really struggled with a lot of things and I was not a good person, my priorities weren’t right and I had a really bad “Don’t give a fuck” attitude.
But then something amazing happened and I reconnected with a friend that I hadn’t spoken to in a few years. We organised a catch up and then were inseparable from that day. We got married and now have 3 babes together.
We share the same values, we share the same entrepreneurial passion and we share the same desire to live a simple life. I’m bloody blessed to have the life I do now, I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Its always hard to let you all know more about me, its not something I wanted to put on social media as most people don’t read long ass winded posts so I decided to put it on my blog for you to read in your own time.
These events have made me a pretty fierce woman and I am grateful for all my experiences. After all the wound is the place where the light enters you! I’m a believer that everything happens for a reason and every experience is to lead you on a path, what you learn from it or do with it is up to us.
One of the things I love about Badass is connecting with so many other women. Hearing about where they come from and what makes them who they are, their journeys, their struggles and their wins. I love it and I love the comradeship and community it creates.